- Stand up straight with your shoulders back: your place in the dominance hierarchy matters and makes a difference on how you act and how others perceive you.
- It’s one of the ancient and fundamental part of our brains to determine our place in the hierarchy
- Happens across all species
- When our place is lower in the hierarchy, we lose confidence and there are lower amounts of serotonin sent to the brain causing us to be afraid and cower from life resulting in poor posture which communicated to others that we are lower in the hierarchy, thus causing them to treat as if we were so
- The order that is most real is the order that is most unchanging (in relation to chaos, leaves change faster than trees, etc.) And it is not the order most easily seen
- 11/14/22 The most real thing is the most unchanged. So in terms of my emotions the most real thing is the order that is most unchanging (so maybe my feeling that Andy isn’t my person and there’s someone better for me)
- It’s one of the ancient and fundamental part of our brains to determine our place in the hierarchy
- Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
- Imagine you are the leader or yourself, “your people,” and lead them into battle and into victory
- Leaders make sacrifices and do everything it takes to lead their people to safety and happiness
- You should be leading yourself to a better life
- We are hard-wired to believe we are undeserving of help or care or compassion because we see ourselves as selfish, disappointing and our thoughts and actions as despicable
- However, we are human and all humans think the same things and make the same mistakes, but that doesn’t make any of us less deserving of self care and treating ourselves with respect
- If we can respect ourselves and treat ourselves as we would someone we love we can make our lives much more bearable
- Imagine you are the leader or yourself, “your people,” and lead them into battle and into victory
- Make friends with people who want the best for you
- Choose to surround yourself with people who support your upward aim and who do not let you falter when you get weak
- Avoid people who feed bad habits, surround yourself with those who will remind you of your goals and who want to help you succeed
- Choose to surround yourself with people who support your upward aim and who do not let you falter when you get weak
- Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
- No matter what, there is always someone out there who is better, more talented and who has made more progress than you, someone who will make you look incompetent
- This doesn’t matter because they are not playing your games
- Aim to grow, aim to improve, aim to fix something small each day and gain compound interest
- No matter what, there is always someone out there who is better, more talented and who has made more progress than you, someone who will make you look incompetent
- Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
- If you do not discipline and correct behavior, they will continue to grow into people that others dislike as well
- If you want someone to do something, figure out what it is that you want, then watch them like a hawk. When you see them do something a bit more towards what you want, swoop in immediately and deliver a reward
- Be aware of how human you are and how angry you can get if you dislike someone, be wary that you may take things out on your children that could have repercussions on their development into a socially acceptable human
- Be patient and pay attention
- Parents are a proxy of the real world and need to prepare children with lessons and discipline
- Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
- Pay attention – sometimes we can become complacent to our own lives and ignore things that we could fix or improve
- Prepare, take action and initiative to improve your life with the small things before you pass judgment on the outside
- Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)
- Make sacrifices to barter and trade with life
- Give and you shall receive
- Give and you build a reputation of trustworthiness
- Stop taking the easy expedient option, stop doing what you know is not good for you
- To have meaning in your life is better than to have what you want because you probably don’t know what you want or what you need
- You cannot manifest meaning, you can set up the preconditions, but it is something that is thrust upon you, it cannot be produced
- Make sacrifices to barter and trade with life
- Tell the truth, or at least don’t lie
- What should you do when you don’t know what to do? Tell the truth.
- Be true to yourself and honest with others
- The world is full of deceit and deceit causes destruction
- Truth provides a goal and a means by which you can improve. This is good because if we are not improving or striving towards something we become anxious
- To have a goal is to create order in chaos and to create meaning
- What should you do when you don’t know what to do? Tell the truth.
- Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t
- If you listen without judgment people will feel safe to tell you what they are thinking with very little deceit
- Do not assume you know more than they do, do not assume what they have to say is unimportant
- Be precise in your speech
- Be clear in what you want and in what you need from others
- Communicate these needs
- If left unspoken or unclear, chaos will pile up and destroy, especially your relationships
- If there is denial, the dragon will grow and take your house with you. But if you acknowledge the dragon, it will get smaller and be manageable
- Do not bother children when they are skateboarding
- When untrammeled—and encouraged—we prefer to live on the edge where we can still be both confident in our experience and confronting the chaos that helps us develop
- We’re hard-wired, for that reason, to enjoy some risk
- We feel invigorated and excited when we work to optimize our future performance, while playing in the present
- (1) the collective pursuit of any valued goal produces a hierarchy (as some will be better and some worse at that pursuit not matter what it is) and (2) it is the pursuit of goals that in large part lends life its sustaining meaning
- For a woman to become complete, such stories claim, she must form a relationship with masculine consciousness and stand up to the terrible world. An actual man can help her do that, to some degree, but it is better for everyone concerned when no one is too dependent
- If children are not able to fail and learn and become stronger, there will be consequences in the future
- Women seek stronger, smarter men than they are. As women become stronger and smarter, there become less and less men who they see fit to be their mate
- When untrammeled—and encouraged—we prefer to live on the edge where we can still be both confident in our experience and confronting the chaos that helps us develop
- Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
- Don’t forget to enjoy small things that come along that bring joy to the tragedy that is life
- When in a crisis:
- Set aside some time to talk and to think about the illness or other crisis and how it should be managed every day
- Do not talk or think about it otherwise
- If you do not limit its effect, you will become exhausted, and everything will spiral into the ground
- When worries associated with the crisis arise at other times, remind yourself that you will think them through, during the scheduled period
- What shall I do with my life? Aim for Paradise, and concentrate on today.
- When everything has become chaotic and uncertain, all that remains to guide you might be the character you constructed, previously, by aiming up and concentrating on the moment at hand
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